Divine Secrets

     I caught some of one of my favorite movies on the other night. Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. This is one of the movies I need to eventually buy for myself because when the right mood strikes it's a great one to watch. I never did get to read the book. Now that I have seen the movie and love it so much I know it'll be a waste. If I don't read it before I see it the movie usually kills the book for me. One of the best parts of a book is forming your own images. Once the movie has done that for me I feel it wrecks one of the best parts of the book. At least for me anyway.
      I also felt it interesting it was on as it sort of went with my theme of putting everything out there on here for all to know. Or at least should my kids read this they will learn lots of things they probably didn't know. Or if they knew get my perspective on it. And as we see in this great movie perspective is everything.
     When we are growing up we see things as a kid and may not know or get what all is happening. If we never talk with our parents or others who lived through it we may never get the real understanding of the things that happened. Everyone's lives are different. Everyone feels things and experiences things different ways. If you don't know the whole story how can you completely understand it. We all have secrets and things we may not want others to know about. Mistakes we've made. Things we learned the hard way. No matter what those things are they have made us who we are and nothing is going to change that.
     Everyone relationship that's failed, every job that's lost, every test that's failed, it's all had some sort of affect on you. Like it or not, good or bad, it has. It has also affected those around you because it has affected you. This is why I probably like the movie so much. It makes you think about stuff like this. Maybe I'm a nerd but I like thinking and learning even if it comes from a movie.
     My relationship with my mother is ok. I know there are lots of assumptions I've made about her life and her choices but I've never talked to her about it. I don't know that I ever will. I know that I want to have a better relationship with my daughter when she is an adult than the kind I have with my own mother. I know I want the boys to understand the choices I made and why I made them regarding their father. I don't want them to wonder why I am who I am I want them to know. Why shouldn't the ones you love most already know?