10th Anniversary

    Come this June my husband and I will be married for ten years. As he's been off this week for school break we've been playing with ideas of what to do for our anniversary. We've gotten as far as taking a weekend away for ourselves. My mom will most likely be watching all the kids and seemed excited about it when I threw the possibility out there to her. As for where to go, well, that's supposed to be the fun part right? I'm torn between going back where we've been before-Lake George-the first place he and I ever went away alone by ourselves 12 years ago. We have since taken the kids a few times too. Or, Montauk, where a friend of ours had a house and we went quite a few times while we were dating with and without the boys but always with other people. A few years ago he surprised me with a trip out there just us and it was amazing although we only had one night, maybe 24 hours. Or, going somewhere completely new and different. I usually prefer to stay with what I know and am comfortable and familiar with but I guess after the big trip this summer and seeing how much more there is out there it's like why not use this opportunity for something new?
    We also have to think about cost so that may decide for us no matter what. There have been a few other ideas that have pretty much been swept aside because of the cost. Namely, Atlantic City, where I'd be fine hanging on the boardwalk I think, but know he'd need to at least do a little gambling while we were there. That can always add up fast. I want us both to be happy in what we choose and our budget to stay happy too. I guess the most important part is no matter where we go we'll be there together and make the most of it with each other. I have been doing a lot of searching online for somewhere new and different. I've even asked friends for suggestions on facebook. Still going through and figuring them out. Still looking and thinking something different, somewhere new could be great. Of course as long as it was afoordable. That has been the biggest factor in my looking. I always go straight to rates and know whether or not to go any further then.
     It's that time of year again and I'm re-reading my favorite book "The Wedding" by Nicholas Sparks. I've realized it's so much better and more enjoyable to sit and read and become engrossed in the story than it is to listen to an audio while driving. Enjoying this book yet again by reading it and having our anniversary plans coming up I cannot help but think about us in the beginning also. There is a lot of looking back in this story as Wilson and Jane's 30th wedding anniversary is approaching and they prepare for their oldest daughters wedding on the same day. So both Lake George and Montauk hold some incredible memories for us and I've been recalling more and more of them as I read. Nostalgia-wise I think Montauk would win. I worry though that even when Rob says he loves Montauk he thinks more of when there were a lot of people and things going on, and I've even asked if just me would be enough. He really didn't answer. It's ok. I know he needs to be kept busy and moving and doing. I could spend the entire day walking the beach and the town and that would be plenty for me. With that, Lake George would win as there is more to do. Or maybe just a challenge to me to find more for us to do in Montauk than just enjoy the beach.
     Ten years is a nice milestone but we've known each other 16 years come April. Some years of course were better than others, especially early on. We've come a long way and it's been quite a trip. We're real adults with our own crazy family. We're still learning. We're still loving. We're still having lots of fun. I always thought I'd cry on my wedding day the big sap that I am. He had me laughing too much I didn't have the time to wallow in my sap. Although it's been some time since I've seen our wedding video a showing is in order this year and it may just be time to wallow. There's a lot of years there to think about.