when i get up for work on sat. mornings my husband gets to stay in bed till i leave. Or even then he may not get out of bed unless i tell or ask him to help me. If the kids get up while i am trying to get ready for work i get them and deal with what they need. When he gets up in the morning to get ready for work if any of the kids get up, usually jake, i get up and deal with him. Emily will eat all her toast every morning i make it. when daddy makes it he lets it get dark and does not cut the crusts off. I am not sure how often she eats it all. I am told i baby her by making it the way she likes it. When they go to bed at night I tuck them in and kiss them goodnight. Rob stays at the computer and emily will come to him to say goodnight and then get into her bed. Jake will usually have to get yelled at to go to sleep. Or I sit with him, usually holding his hand until he falls asleep. When we are all sleeping at night if I hear anything I get up. My husband never hears anything. Maybe i need to get some ear plugs. For lunch I make sure everyone, especially the big boys eat at normal times. 12-1pm. When i'm not home if they forget to eat or aren't hungry they don't eat. I make sure everyone has food they like and eat it and everything to go with it. Most times sometimes i forget a drink or something, then i get my food. My husband can be done and gone hiding upstairs by the time i get to sit down. Of course he says its not hiding i knbow where he is. he's not in the immediate area helping hes hiding to me. If they need something anything i usually jump right up or wait till it gets soo annoying i can't take it anymore. my husband can ignore a hell of a lot longer than i can. If i've just finally sat down you'd think he might jump up first. Jake will stand in front of the door and tell me I'm not going to work and get all sad when its time for me to leave. Never have i seen him do this to my husband. I guess there's a reason it's called mommy guilt and i've never heard the phrase daddy guilt. I cannot go to emilys baseball it so happens i have to work to. I work when my husband does not. Gee, thats when baseball is. Not an issue for him. Do i take off work and not make $ for everyone so i can see her play? Theres a reason we feel like we have to do it all and can't. its life. I chose to have these kids i am responsible for them at all times. When i have to work it's my husbands job. Yet if theres something else he wants/ needs to do at the same time I feel bad the kids will be watching each other for an hour or two. He does not. Although he and I have taken off for a nice dinner by ourselves and let them watch themselves for an hour or two and I don't feel bad. Maybe it's the whole work guilt thing in general that makes some times worse than others for me?
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