When my husband and I were married I really didn't want a big wedding. I already had two kids and thought putting the money towards a house would have been better. My husband really wanted one so we did. I did want one too but not having one really would have been fine. We got married at Yankee Stadium eight years ago in June. A lot has happened since then. We've had two more kids. Bought a house and added on to it. I can't say I wasn't happy or didn't enjoy my wedding. It was completely different and a lot of fun. But would I do it the same? I don't think so. I was heavy when we got married and got heavier afterwards. I lost 75 lbs two years ago. Put back 15 by now but still am a lot lighter than i was then. I look a hell of a lot better too. I was worried about money so my dress was off the rack and needed to be taken in. I had a woman I work with mother take it in instead of paying an arm and a leg at the bridal salon. i definitely wish i'd have taken the time for me before the wedding to have lost some weight and fit into a smaller dress. Or at the least gotten the fit done right. My gown was a size 20! I wear a size 6 now. Wedding gown would probably be an 8. There are certain pictures from my big day I just don't like looking at. I love the beach and would have loved getting married there. Small ceremony just a few people there. Our wedding couldn't be small because he has a huge family. We actually had two days of wedding festivities so no one would feel left out. I also would have been paranoid it would rain and I wouldn't be able to be on the beach so I let it go. Maybe I shouldn't have. The day we got married was one of the hottest of the year. I work with a lot of women who at least once a week get their nails done. I've only ever gotten them done for my wedding. I have never had my hair professionally done. I don't even let other people cut it i'm that paranoid about it. So yeah there are some things I would change. I'm betting i'm not the only one out there who feels this way.
Yankee Stadium is now closed. Yes they have opened a new one but it is not where I got married. They will be knocking that one down later this year I believe. I've joked with my husband how we need to at least renew our vows at the new stadium, maybe for out 10th anniversary. Sure, there is some truth in that joking. It may not be the beach but I'd be damn sure I was in a smaller dress. And took some extra time and money on getting me ready for the big day this time around.
I had never met a woman who didn't dream about her wedding day until I met my wife. I couldn't believe the times we were talking about marriage and she had no vision of her wedding day. I always saw myself in the church I grew up in and then partying with my huge family afterward. Well, the church wouldn't allow us for whatever stupid religious rules they have so we got married in my real church, the church of baseball, Yankee Stadium. What's funny, is that it probably wouldn't have never happened if my wife didn't research the possibilities. She contacted the stadium and found out all the information. Was it a dream wedding? No. I never, ever, dreamed of it, and I knew she didn't either, but it was incredible. Sure it was hot, but like good weddings it had everything. Laughs from the AC unit in the Great Moments Room that kept blowing out the Unity candle. Love. My new wife and my new sons. Thrills. The Yankees coming back from 0-4 to win. And even a little stress. My mother not being able to sit in the upper deck and the bus not being where we thought it would be after the game. The reception was awesome despite the lame DJ. It was a great weekend. A dream. It is now, to me, but I know my wife would have loved a beach wedding. They say opposites attract, well she loves the beach and I don't. Maybe one day I can give her her dream wedding since she gave me mine.
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