sleep vs. sex
If you don't have kids don't even bother reading this. If you're thinking about having them heres a warning. You will never see sleep in the same way. I have heard stories of great sleeping children. the kinds that sleep through the night right away and always do. I think people are liars and this is just an urban legend. I had one child who could fall asleep anywhere he was. I did the same thing. that did not make either of us good sleepers. I've fallen asleep countless times in bed with my kids. Their beds or mine. On the floor of their rooms, sometimes with them sometimes holding their hands, sometimes patting them to sleep. I've been there all night, a few hours, or back and forth between their room and mine. It has been a rare occasion when I have not been woken up at night. My daughter talks in her sleep. No one in my family ever did that. When you hear it it scares the hell out of you. Especially since she's usually dreaming of fighting with her older brothers and yells out, "NO!" And things like, "Leave me alone." or "Stop it." Recently i've been feeling more of the effects of lack of sleep. You can see the circles under my eyes bright as day on my face. Not sure what i can do about them. Getting more or even better sleep isn't always an option. Most if not all of the time i have absolutely no desire for sex. We've had our new bedroom with its new beautiful bed for about four months now. It's been christened plenty. I want my sleep. To really avoid even thinking about it I have fallen asleep in my sons room. Not very nice i know i'm just too tired to care. I love my husband and i know sex is important. I never thought i would be one to plan for it. When i feel its been awhile, usually about a week, if my friends not visiting ladies, i'll send him a racy text. I do it only so i know he'll be into it and not too tired himself. And i'll have to hold myself to it and keep myself awake long enough to enjoy it. And i absolutely do. After i'm always thinking why'd i wait so long to do this again. we could and should be doing this every day. then of course the next day comes full of all its household chores and kids issues and work and i'm ready to drift right off to la-la land as soon as my children have dropped off themselves. So far this has been working. There are plenty of other times when it's spontaneous. I may not always be all into it but i get there and thats what its about. I'm sure theres times he's not into it until I go there. We're married. We don't always want to do what the other wants but we do it for the sake of peace in the marriage. Give and take. It's always a choice. Stay awake and have a good time connecting with my husband. Go to sleep as early as possibly and give a quick kiss goodnight. Of course when sleep wins i cannot always fall asleep right away. All the crap of the day catches up with me then and theres no way to turn my brain off. Sometimes i wish i'd have statred something instead cause i'd probably be able to fall alseep even faster. :)